To me, a soulmate is someone on whom you could depend upon to make the end-of-life decision without regard to their own personal prejudices about death, and without considering their own plight based upon that decision.
Though I will listen to arguments that mates can be soulmates, I have yet to be convinced by such an argument. Usually, the argument is an emotionally based charge that qualifies anyone who is a current lover. Even if the love lasts, it is still far-fetched to believe that a mate is also a soulmate.
Likewise, children cannot be soulmates. The decision to pull the plug is theirs to make, barring orders to the contrary.
Hopefully, everybody has a soulmate or two that would be able to make the call, if it came down to it. Personally, I feel like I have ten to a dozen at any given time. Some people know who they are, but most probably do not know how highly I value them.
The most recent pondering about who is and who isn't a soulmate of mine, centers around my ex-wife. We were mates, but those days are behind us. We have children together, and that is what leads me to believe that a former mate can become a soulmate.
She gains no advantage by my death. Her interest would be to ease the pain for our children. As such, I believe now that an ex-mate can, indeed, become a soulmate.
On another front, a dear friend of mine got creeped out by me telling her that she was my soulmate. She thought that I meant that she was my girlfriend.
To Joanie, I apologize for that.
To her guardian, Alan, you can know that I know about that, and that I have apologized to her face.
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